Love or Sex ?
From 100 Blessings Every Day
Often we speak of addictions in terms of alcohol and drug abuse, maybe even food and gambling. There are still those who are unwilling to talk about (or admit to) their sexual addiction. No less real than alcohol or drug addiction, sexual addictions are just as destructive and deadly. The time has come to “admit that we are powerless over our sexual addiction” and can be healed.
The driving force behind sexual addiction is a desire to be loved. We think it may help fill the void that is created by the fact that we don’t love ourselves. In active addiction, that perceived void is more like a black hole that, by definition, can never be filled. No matter how much we try, no matter how many people we sleep with, it is never enough. Never.
When we learn to love ourselves once again, we come to understand that there is a place for loving sex in our lives. Loving sex nurtures both partners. It enhances the self as it gives to the other person.
When you make love, imagine both you and your partner joining bodies and souls